Dam Wedding!

Shawna and Erick had been together 10 years, but not been interested in getting married.  Mostly because Shawna dreaded a big wedding.  They’d even started planning a ceremony, but when the guest list got up to 150 people, she put the kibosh on the whole thing.

Erick had grown up camping at Little River State Park in Waterbury, Vermont.  So, rather than give up on marriage completely, they decided to get a few family members together and make a quick afternoon of it.

They chose to have the ceremony in the middle of a long, low dam (cause of the beautiful lake pictured above).  They asked everyone to walk out first.

And then hand-in-hand, and totally chill, they strolled out to meet us for the ceremony.

You’ll note Erick wearing his formal Red Sox jersey and Gramma Nana with her walker, who withstood the sun far better than I did.  She also described her favorite moment of family camping at the park, which was coming out to the dam with drinks and a blanket to lie down and look at the stars while the ranger told them all stories.

All proving, once again, that you don’t need much to make a beautiful day.

Nature’s Big Surprise

This article originally appeared at The Gathering Guide. Hey Mom, I’m a real Blogger now!

Heather and Robin - Photo by Karen Pike

While scientists tell us that Nature abhors a vacuum, what they’re less likely to reveal is that Nature loves Love.  I perform a large number of outdoor weddings, and even in a place as climatically dynamic as Vermont, the weather almost always cooperates in support of a wedding ceremony.  Hot days cool off a bit.  Bad weather restrains itself while vows are being vowed.  Even chilly mid-winter weddings seem to bite with a softer set of teeth.

Nowhere, though, is this more evident than in the supportive response of the animal kingdom.  While I’ve seen rambunctious pet dogs quiet down as couples walk down the aisle, and highly picturesque flocks of geese soar overhead just as a couple says, “I do,” my favorite instances of “nonhuman participation” have come when animals insert themselves directly into the ceremony.

Michael and Robert had come all the way from Michigan to get married at Comstock House, a little B&B in rural Plainfield, Vermont.  They’d already constructed a moving ceremony in which they scattered flowers and planted seeds, honoring their love, their ancestors, and the beauty of their surroundings.

But then Robert was in the middle of saying his vows to Michael, and talking about how kind and gentle and giving Michael is, when a giant, iridescent green dragonfly circled around them and landed on Michael’s arm.  They both smiled at it briefly, then continued on with the ceremony.

Apparently not content with the amount of Attention Paid, the dragonfly took off, circled them again, and then landed right on the tip of Michael’s nose.  Michael took a long, cross-eyed look at this gorgeous insect, and said to Robert, “It’s busy eating a fly.  I don’t want to bother it.  You can just keep going.”  Thereby proving Robert’s point about his sweet and generous personality.

Just a couple weeks later, I joined Heather and Robin for their ceremony at Fielder Farm in Huntington, Vermont.  Of all the stunningly beautiful places I’ve performed ceremonies, Fielder Farm, with its long, sloping hills and foot-of-the-mountain views of Camel’s Hump, has got to take the proverbial cake.

Heather and Robin had decided to climb to the top of a long meadow, and have their ceremony on a gorgeous little plateau overlooking the valley.  As it happened, that meadow was more than just a spot with a nice view; it was the stomping ground of a small herd of Jersey cows.  With caramel-colored coats, giant eyes, and big batty eyelashes, Jerseys are sort of the porn stars of the Bovine World–not to mention being highly attentive wedding guests!

As we laid out the handmade quilt where the gals would stand for the ceremony, the entire herd strolled over and gathered around the brides in a perfect semi-circle, getting as close as they could without being rude or disruptive–or evacuating anything unpleasant.  Jerseys, apparently, have a well-developed sense of decorum.

They stuck around for the full ceremony, joined Robin and Heather for the bulk of their photo shoot, and then, just as things were wrapping up, took their cue and nonchalantly strolled away.  They couldn’t have been better guests if they’d been hired!

The Vermont Tourism Bureau doesn’t guarantee the appearance of such dramatically accommodating creatures, but if you’re getting married in the Green Mountain State, it’s worth preparing to be pleasantly surprised!

 

Ticking Clock Follow-Up

"We can't even begin to express our gratitude for the MOST beautiful marriage ceremony!! Â We were blown away on how connected we were to the words you spoke. It was just perfect!!! It wasn't about the guests, the flowers, the food or what we were wearing. Â It was truly about our abundant love for one another. Just perfect." Â - Ellie and Ben

I just got an update on Ellie and Ben!  Turns out they left for the hospital 30 minutes after the ceremony, and 11 hours later, welcomed Miss Aspen Rebecca Hayes into the world.

She is, I’m told, “Cute as a button.”  But don’t take my word for it.  See for yourself:

Welcome Aspen!  So glad you could join us!  We hope you enjoy your stay!

Ticking Clock!

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I’ll add the photo from the actual wedding when Ellie’s sister sends it along.  But this was just so funny I wanted to write about it right away.

So, yesterday afternoon, I went over to the little hamlet of St. George, VT to perform a kitchen wedding for Ellie and Ben.

They’d met while working at Burton Snowboards, are madly in love, and Ben has a beautiful relationship with Ellie’s 7 year old son Keane.

They were very excited to get married – and a little pressed for time, as Ellie is about 11 months pregnant.  Just kidding.  But she is really, really, really pregnant.  In fact, as of this writing, she might not be pregnant anymore!

Yup, as Ellie and Ben moved to the spot in the kitchen where he’d proposed, Keane perched on a stool, Ellie’s mom and sister gathered round, and Ben’s parents joined in on Skype, Ellie announced that she was having serious contractions, and wasn’t going to be able to stand up for much longer, so we better get on with it!

This might explain why there was so much crying…

But what a post-post-modern wedding!  From the rapid bridal dilation to the parental techno-participation, to the fact that Ben read his vows off his iPhone, this was definitely a ceremony to remember.

They’ll be re-hitching up in October with a big, fancy party-style wedding, but it’s hard to imagine anything topping this!

 

 

Utter Sweetness!

I got the sweetest thank-you note from Kristen and Justin, who got married in a lovely lakeside ceremony in upstate New York (yes, I do cross the border sometimes!).

Thank you once again for making our ceremony perfect.  It was the most accurate description of Justin and me.  It brought out many different emotions from not only us but our families too.  Everyone was crying at one point, even Justin’s dad 🙂  We cannot thank you enough for the beautiful job you did for us.  I wish you could have stayed a bit longer to celebrate!

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!

-Justin and Kristen Delisle

I really have to thank them back for sharing as much of themselves with me as they did, and for being willing to have both poignancy, romance, and humor in the ceremony.

And in case you’re wondering what poignancy, romance, and humor actually look like in action, here’s an excerpt from their ceremony:

You know the ease with which you communicate and share and engage with the world, and the huge amount of trust and respect which you bring to your partnership.  Well, trust and respect, but also pizza, chicken wings, Chinese and ice cream.  Proof positive that you are, indeed, the male and female versions of exactly the same person.

You also know exactly how much you adore each other.  Kristen, you know Justin loves your personality, and how much fun you are to be around, and really, he loves pretty much everything about you.  Justin, you know Kristen thinks you’re the most caring man she’s ever met, and that she relishes your generosity, your work ethic, and your mere presence, which gives her so much comfort.  You also have no idea how fortunate you are to have found a woman to whom you can communicate the power of your feelings through a judicious and masterful use of greeting cards.  Once again, proof positive that you are the same person.

They’re a totally delightful couple, and I wish them all the best!

Mighty Mini Music Maven

Generally I tend to focus on the part of a wedding where I’m doing a lot of the talking and the couple is busy getting wed to each other.  But sometimes, other bits of enchantment catch my attention, and this photo is a beautiful illustration of just such a moment.

We were at Mills Riverside Park in Jericho, Vermont waiting for Ethan and Alicia to arrive. Well, actually, Ethan was already there. We were really waiting for Alicia to arrive. But I never like to blame the bride.

Anyway, the band played for a while before things got rolling, with a lovely set that included some of my favorite Sing-along-ables, including One Love, One Heart and Here Comes the Sun.

Much as I was enjoying the concert, this little guy was utterly into it.  He stood there, as documented in this photo, staring at the musicians, for a good 20 minutes until his mom had to pick him up because Alicia was about to walk down the aisle.

I would give a serious chunk of change to be able to travel into the future and see whether or not this micro-dude becomes a rock star.

Until Bananas Turn To Ink

A wedding should be a celebration that fits the people getting married and you really helped us achieve that. It has been a joy working with you. Â - Deanna and Guy

Guy and Deanna came all the way from St. Louis to get married at a rented farmhouse in beautiful Craftsbury, Vermont.  They had about 10 friends and family there with them, and we did the ceremony out underneath a couple of old apple trees called “The Married Couple” by the owners of the farmhouse.

At the end of the ceremony, Deanna and Guy handed out little books called Until Bananas Turn To Ink.  It’s a love poem written by William M. Perry for his wife and runs along the lines of:

Until bananas turn to ink
I’ll keep you in my heart.
Till helium begins to sink
I’ll hope we never part.
Until pillows grow on trees
And the ocean turns to glue
And polar bears raise honeybees
I always will love you.

It’s very sweet and whimsical, and the entire assembled gang read it out loud, each person taking a line.  It was a terrific moment of easy group participation, and highly recommended for anyone looking to get their wedding guests more involved in the ceremony.

Midnight At The Treehouse

 

“We want to thank you again so much for everything Kathryn. Marriage is amazing and you helped us to make it all happen.”

Dee and Shannon met on line in 2nd Life, and managed to translate their romance to the Real World (although it took Shannon 3 solid months of asking Dee out before she finally said yes).

They’d originally contacted me about getting married next summer, but decided at the last minute that it was time to get married NOW!  So they piled themselves and their dog into their car, and drove 17 hours from Indiana to Burlington.

Their big goal was to get married at midnight in the now-famous treehouse at Oakledge Park, and brought a battalion of candles with them with which to light the ceremony.

When we got to the treehouse, it was empty but for a gigantic growler of beer and a large, beautifully intricate, blown glass bong.  We wondered who would have been so blasted out of their mind (or scared off) as to forget both the beer and the bong!

Then, just as we’d lit the candles and were about to start the ceremony, a young guy came riding into the treehouse on his bike, apologized for the interruption, grabbed his Implements of Destruction, and wheeled back out into the night.

The rest of the ceremony proceeded without further incident, Dee and Shannon went back to the hotel, caught a few tiny winks of sleep, piled back into the car, and drove the marathon home.

They just sent me this photo, and I’m so glad to know they made it back safely, and are loving the Married Life!

What Lies Beneath

 

We just wanted to say a huge thank you! The wedding was beautiful and we couldn’t have asked for more. We got many compliments about you from friends and family. We feel so lucky to have found you and know you were the perfect match for us. Our day was perfect beginning to end, so thank you for the role that you played in making that possible!!!!

Stephanie and Elizabeth were friends for ages before discovering that something was happening between them, and lo and behold they were falling in love!

They had a beautiful rooftop ceremony at the Sunset Ballroom in Shelburne complete with a handfasting…

As well as speaking vows they wrote themselves…

And exchanging roses as the beginning of a relationship ritual which they hope will last a lifetime…

But what I didn’t know until I saw the photo gallery from the ceremony was that lurking underneath all the hair and makeup and beautiful dresses and flowers and shining smiles was some seriously rompy sassiness!

These gals are amazing together, and I wish them all love and happiness and years and years of stripey socks!

Adventures in Literalism

Debbie and Steve - They look like a cute matched set, don't they?

I got a call this morning from Jackie, who’s the business manager for my chiropractor.  She said her best friend Debbie was ready to get married and wanted to do it now.  Today. Immediately.

I said that I was going to be home until 4:30, and that if Debbie could get herself and her guy (whose named turned out to be Steve) to my house by 4, I’d be happy to marry them.

I had no idea if they were going to go through with it, but right around 2, a car came up the driveway and out stepped Jackie, Steve, Debbie, and Debbie’s daughter Brittany.

It was a pretty straightforward ceremony, right up until the part with the rings.  I think Steve must have been a little nervous because when I said, “Steve, please offer Debbie your ring,” he just handed it to her.  Like you’d give someone your car keys.

So much for fancy, ceremonial language.  I had to say, “No.  Put it on her finger.”

Fortunately the rest of the wedding passed without incident, Steve and Debbie made it to the kissing part at the end, and Brittany absconded with the fancy floral file folder I’d given them to hold the ceremony text (I always give the couple a nice printout to keep).

It was the first time anyone had ever done that, but not so different from when I start feeding people their vows line by line, and they (it’s usually the groom) repeat them looking at me instead of their Affianced Love.  I always have to say, “No.  Look at HER.”

Funny – that one has happened so many times you might think I’m married to a whole bunch of guys!